Let Them Come to You
As your cat becomes more comfortable, she’ll likely start exploring her new home and getting to know her new people. Some cats jump right in, while others may take weeks to warm up. The key is letting the cat choose when it’s time to start bonding. “Cat’s decide when it’s OK to start making friends,” Englar notes.
When a cat is ready, she’ll start exhibiting bonding behaviors, like kneading and bunting. “Bunting is when the cat walks right up to you and starts rubbing you with her forehead,” Dodman describes. “This often comes with other friendly behaviors like purring and sitting on your lap or right next to you.”
“Kneading is good behavior to look for as well,” adds Englar. “Kittens do it all the time, but in adult cats, it means they’re very comfortable and relaxed around you.”
There’s no real time frame for this part of the bonding process, explains Dodman. “Some cats [warm up] to you right off the bat, but others may need a little more encouragement. It all depends on their personality,” he says.